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That thing you’re avoiding? It might be the medicine you need.

Friend, I went down HARD last week. Two tissue boxes a day, eyes swollen shut (they actually gave me a vision test at urgent care), fever, achy teeth…pure misery.

No tea, over-the-counter meds, or antibiotics could touch my sinus infection. And the first Tender Circle was just days away. There I lay in bed, barely functional, wondering how I could possibly hold space for others when I couldn’t even hold space for myself (or my family).

As the weekend approached and my symptoms didn’t let up, I started questioning it all. Fear, doubt, and old stories surfaced. What started as, “What if I can’t show up fully?” soon spiraled into:

What if no one comes?

What if they don’t have a good experience?

What if I’m pushing something that isn’t ready?

Doing It Scared

Luckily, by Saturday, I felt much better. The fear was still there, but I decided to follow Glennon Doyle’s advice: “If you can’t beat fear, just do it scared.”

I’m so glad I did.

The Circle was small—and perfect. The energy was soft, grounded, sacred. We laughed. We cried. We shared. We exhaled.

It was pure magic. And I was reminded (again) of something I want you to remember, too:

The thing you’re resisting might be the exact thing your soul is calling for.

How to Tell the Difference Between Fear & Rest

The next time you feel a tightening in your chest, the urge to cancel your plans, or the pull to back away from something that once felt exciting, pause. And ask yourself:

  • Is this my body asking for rest?
  • Or is this my fear asking to stay safe?

Both matter. Both are valid. But they need different medicine.

If it’s fear talking, get curious:

  • Ask, “What could be waiting for me on the other side of resistance?” (What’s the best that could happen?)
  • Then fill the gaps: “What do I need to move forward?” (Do you need clarity, reassurance, or nervous system support?)

And if all else fails? Do it scared.

In Love, Light, and healing,

P.S. – If you’ve been quietly eyeing one of our Circles from the sidelines… I see you. And I saved you a seat. Let me know what questions you have. 💛

Vera V. Chapman with smiling warmly in a teal velvet kimono against a calming blue background

Vera is a Reiki Master Teacher and Energy Coach who helps women identify, clear, and heal blocked energy so they can move through grief and trauma, and become joyfully present in their lives again. She is a Board Certified Coach, Certified Sound Healer, Certified Yoga Teacher, and proud mama of two living children and one in the stars. She holds a Masters Degree in Counseling and a Ph.D in Education. She has healed from deep grief and sexual trauma using the modalities she now teaches, and has authored a children’s book and healing affirmation cards to support grieving women and their families. Most importantly, she’s on a mission to make energy healing accessible to everyone.